Death is hard, but there are ways to meet it well
For many of us, death can be disturbing or frightening to think about, so we keep it at arm’s length.
We pretend it’s not going to happen to us, or to the people we love. But it does, and sometimes sooner rather than later. When it does, most of us find ourselves shockingly unprepared for the intensity of the experience.
Dying and grieving are learned skills
You may not know what you need, but you want this death to be sacred
Family Healing Services
Practical and spiritual consultation and support
A big diagnosis or death can upset everything in your world. In the overwhelm, how do you attend to the logistics, as well as everyone’s spiritual and emotional health?
I bring a stable and compassionate presence, to help your souls integrate what’s happening, and your hearts open more deeply to each other.
Officiating funerals and memorials
A successful funeral celebrates a person’s life and grieves their death, and it allows everyone to transition to what’s next.
Whether you’re facing an immanent or recent death, I can craft and officiate a meaningful ceremony that meets the soul needs of your family and community.
Pet goodbyes and euthanizing ceremonies
The death of a pet can be heartbreaking, but we rarely have the ceremonies to honour its spiritual and emotional significance. If your pet is reaching the end of his or her life, I can help you say goodbye.
If you choose to euthanize, I can support you before, during, or after the procedure.
Whether it’s expected or sudden, each death is unique. And each brings up its own interpersonal, emotional and spiritual issues for those whose hearts are touched by it.
Whatever you and your family are experiencing, I can help you craft a ritual response. Even when things are hard, healing and integration is possible.
Examples of Client Conversations:
- Strategizing about how to talk to aging parents who were unwilling to discuss end-of-life plans
- Helping a mom find ways to support her 13 year-old daughter after the girl’s father’s sudden death
- Finding ways to make space in the funeral ceremony for estranged family members who hadn’t been in touch for many years, but who were making overtures of reconciliation
- Giving a mom tools to help her kids deal with their dad’s illness and impending death
- Planning a funeral, including tips for how to negotiate with a funeral home and options for green burial
- Coaching a woman who was going home for the funeral of a elderly aunt, after having been estranged (by her own choice) from her family for many years
- Helping a man make peace with his partner’s suicide, on the 10-year anniversary of the death
- Supporting a woman after the death of her ex-husband, when she wasn’t welcome at the funeral
- Helping a mom process a child’s death, when the body could not be retrieved
Rituals nourish the soul the same way that food nourishes the body
Examples of Healing Rituals
- A ceremony with work colleagues to honour and support a member with a terminal diagnosis
- A community ritual after a stillbirth, to break the awkward silence
- A sharing and support circle for children, when one of their peers is facing illness or death
- A gathering to say goodbye to an ailing parent, when there are a variety of spiritual perspectives in the family
- A closure ceremony to bring healing to an abortion conducted in secret years ago
- A forgiveness ritual to restore connections between estranged family members
- A living funeral, to say goodbye while the person is still alive
- A farewell ceremony at the death bed
- A ceremony to re-do a funeral done in haste after a sudden death
- An ash scattering or burial
- A pet euthanizing ceremony, designed specifically for children
- A funeral or memorial that truly celebrates, mourns, integrates, and heals
If you don’t know what to do, do a ritual
Step towards healing
It can be hard to hold the space for others when you’re grieving yourself. If your family’s heart needs some support, and you’re its caretaker, let’s talk.
There’s a healing path through this, and I can help you find it.