When we die, our body and our soul separate. Our physical remains return to the earth. But what happens to the non-physical part of us?
As a death doula, I help dying people and their families to make peace with death, and to meet it with grace and confidence.
Most of my clients have a strong inner knowing that some aspect of who we are continues after we die, but they just don’t know how that works.
Dying and having someone you love die is hard enough. Not knowing how it works makes it even harder.
Different cultural and religious traditions each have their own map for the process, but what do you do if you don’t resonate with one of those traditions? Then all you’re left with is the mainstream, secular, materialist map that says we are only our bodies: When our bodies shut down, we’re gone. End of story.
That mainstream map is problematic for lots of reasons. The first is that it’s not true. The second is that it creates suffering.
The map that says we’re gone when we die is not true: If you’re one of the many, many of people who’ve had some experience of connection with their loved ones after death, you’ll know that they don’t just cease to exist. They continue in some way, and sometimes we can have a healthy, ongoing relationship with them. (Although without a map, it’s hard to know how that works, or how to support it.)
The map that says we’re gone when we die creates suffering: The human psyche is wired for connection, we need to belong. It’s critical to our wellbeing to know that we’re held in a web of community with others. No wonder we’re so terrified of dying, if the only map we have says that we’re going to fall off the edge of existence into nothingness and aloneness. For eternity.
Death is hard, but a faulty map, that only shows us the physical half of what happens, makes it much harder than it needs to be.
A huge part of what I do – with my clients, and with my students – is give them a new map of how our souls and bodies separate as we die, and how we can meet that process in a healing way.
I’ve created a short online class to share this information because it’s been so helpful for the folks I work with.
The map I offer in this class is rooted in nature-based spirituality and modern consciousness research. It draws from energy medicine, systems thinking, sacred sciences and ancient wisdom traditions.
At its basis, this map says that the process of dying involves more than just living human beings and the seen world. That it’s a larger, more mysterious undertaking.
This map gives people a way to understand the extraordinary things that happen around death and dead people: It shows how Near-Death Experiences, and reincarnation, and dreams of our dead, and the visions and visitations that dying people experience, all fit into a coherent map of the soul’s journey.
Most importantly, this map helps people understand the larger spiritual process that happens with death and bereavement. If we understand what’s happening, at a spiritual level, we know what to look for, and how to cooperate with and amplify the grace and mystery that make death and loss bearable.
The class is for death doulas, nurses, social workers, and other end-of-life professionals.
And it’s for anyone who will die, or who knows and loves people who will die.
The material I share in this class has been enormously meaningful to my clients, and my students. I hope it’s also helpful for you, and for those you care about.
Learn more about the class and register here